For those of you in the US, Happy President’s Day! For everyone else, Happy Monday!
In preparation for my series with Dr. Herbert Rappaport, I have been thinking about and working on/with the people who are difficult for me. And, guess what the first thing I have had to take look at is…ME.
I knew that I was my own secret weapon, but it doesn’t make it any easier. If we want to make a shift with the people that are important but challenging, we have to find a different “dance.” We are most in control of our own moves, and it is easier to do something than to tell another.
Next week, I will share one of my experiments with you. For now, take a look at the difficult people in your world, get a little notebook, and jot some notes to help modify your dance.
- What do you observe in that person’s pattern of action? What do you know about how they think?
- What do you observe about your own action and thinking?
- What do you want to happen?
Then we will get to work!