Last week I had a little miracle. I created some new work by letting go of knowing exactly what I needed to DO in the matter.
Focus on Your Underlying Intention
I was frustrated in not getting through to “seal a deal.” So, I decided to practice what I preach and focus on my underlying intention rather than what I needed to do to make it happen. Here’s the sequence of thinking I used:
- What is the outcome I really want? Start with whatever words come to mind and clarify exactly what you want–so clear that you can see it! For me, I realized that I wanted an opportunity to make an impact with a team for whom I am the right coach.
- Why do I want it?
- As I go into the meeting or conversation, what is my underlying intention? An underlying intention is at the source of the more concrete outcome. For example, if you want a decision to be made, your underlying intent may be the momentum for the team or the ability to reach a particular goal on time and budget.
Letting Go of Controlling the Outcome
Then, the hard part. Let go of planning or knowing exactly what to do to create your intended outcome. Or, thinking you can control the people, dynamics, or result. Let the situation evolve and be ready and act through your intention.
The miracle? It took me 5 minutes of thinking to be ready for the right action. Listen to my miracle here
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